So you’ve been hurt. We all have. Perhaps you’re still smarting from the pain of the loss of your previous relationship. It’s normal to be angry, to get frustrated, and at times, be on the brink of desperation. These are all processes that we go through regardless of our circumstances in life.
When emotional pain gets in the way of our judgment, the easiest thing to do is to find comfort in the arms of another person. That’s the easiest way to temporarily forget, but not in the least the most effective.
Rebound relationship - will the new love drive out the old?
Entering a rebound relationship can be selfish for a variety of reasons. But you probably don’t want to hear about that. So let’s talk about what it does for you:
There’s no denying that it feels good to be appreciated and to be liked. Take note, it’s not love we’re talking about. After a period of loneliness, the thing that people need most is appreciation from another person. For a brief period, we get that in rebound relationships. The euphoria of a new relationship is always great at the beginning, and this helps people put behind their pains. But once you get past that initial stage of happiness, the loneliness of your past will creep in once again, making you feel unhappier than ever.
With no real intention of committing yourself for the long term (you might think you do, but you don’t), you quickly lose interest in the new relationship. Simply because your partner can’t seem to the unrealistic expectations that you’ve set for him or her. If your partner is looking for something long term, you risk the chance of hurting him or her. In the end, it’s they who get hurt.
Though it may seem that entering rebound relationships is the fastest way to heal, remember that the happiness you’ll feel here is not the same as you would get in a completely contended, mutually loving relationship. Give yourself time to heal and to find yourself. By the time you’re truly ready for a new relationship, you’d be a whole new person.
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